Implement DNS querying cache management API

[Ethan-Arrowood]

What is the problem this feature will solve?

Follow up to #57640 , we should create an API that allows users to specify the DNS querying cache TTL.

With the addition of this API, we should restore the default behavior to match the (sensible) defaults of c-ares (i.e. remove the qcache_max_ttl=0`).

I will contribute this in the coming days.

What is the feature you are proposing to solve the problem?

API I have in my head is to add a ttl option to https://nodejs.org/api/dns.html#resolveroptions and to all of the shortcuts too i.e. https://nodejs.org/api/dns.html#dnsresolvehostname-rrtype-callback

Something like dns.resolve('...', { ttl: 100 }, () => {}); or new dns.Resolver({ ttl: 100 });

What alternatives have you considered?

No response

[ronag]

Should we somehow automatically clear the cache if we detect a connection error to a cached IP? Does that make sense?